I’m working on a little story right now but it’s taking a little longer than expected to finish. So in the meantime, something came to mind.
I’m sure you’ve felt, at least once, like the whole world hates you, including the birds and the cute little dog next door; and it must have happened enough for there to be so many sayings about it! E.g.:
- Waking up on the wrong side of the bed
- Murphy’s Law – if something can go wrong, it will
- Someone saying “at least it couldn’t get any worse”, and it does
- Someone saying “don’t worry I’m sure things will get better soon”, and it doesn’t
- When it rains, it pours
- Things will get worse before they get better
- Mind over matter – you can beat the “bad day”, and you get more frustrated trying
Which makes me wonder, why do bad things always happen all at once? Sometimes it really feels like there’s a higher power at play to have all these horrible things happen all in one day. Then sometimes I think, why would the higher power even bother with something like that, or someone like me?
Although what would the alternative be? Spreading all the bad things across a whole year and by that imagine a bad day but lasting for 365 times as long? Nooo… that would be bad. Actually, that might make you immune to bad things. Which would be good…? Bruce sure didn’t like it. Who’s Bruce? (Note: Opens in a new window)
Well some people say it’s all in your head, but I live with my head and sometimes I can’t control where my mind takes me! So that doesn’t really help. Plus my mind always has a really kick-ass comeback for that. For a more scientific breakdown, see this lifehacker article: The Science Behind “Having a Bad Day” (and How to Solve It), if not, read on!
My recipe for dealing with bad days if you’re an optimist or even a semi-optimist or just someone who wants to make it better is:
- You can choose to sulk (if you’re around people close to you, then make sure they know you’re sulking) or suck it up (especially if you’re in the bus, nobody wants to sit next to a crazy person).
- When you’ve sulked or sucked it up enough, consider venting to someone who will listen, provide a comforting pat and not rebut or laugh at your misfortunes.
- Spend some alone time figuring out your thoughts or calming yourself down from the “adrenaline rush” of depression. Trust me it helps, whether or not you like spending time with yourself.
- Distract yourself with something mindless. Try not to do anything too challenging as that may add to the frustration. E.g. read a children’s book or play a mindless game that has no room for failure.
- If possible, do what you enjoy, be it hanging out with friends virtually or physically, reading, writing etc, but try to avoid any impetuous acts of booking a trip overseas or buying a house or anything of that sort you may regret later.
- Otherwise, let time do the healing and when you feel it’s safe for you – mentally, emotionally and physically, slowly “head out into the world” again – ie resume what you were doing and the “Curse of the Bad Day” is lifted!
- If the above doesn’t work sometimes consciously trying to make it a better day actually does work.
Now if only I could get myself to remember that…if anyone succeeds, let me know!